Tuesday, November 1, 2016
& FINDING NIRVANA
Here is some advice on how you can find internal happiness & overcome depression!
I have lived with depression for many years and was treated by the worst and the best of them in many countries and eventually I got over it so here’s how I overcame it! In this blog I would like to tell you what depression is and how to overcome it!
Today’s humans are just bodies that wake up every day and then eventually fall asleep to wake up another day until the time has come to answer to a higher calling. Almost all of us are trapped in a world where we just exist terrified of the inevitable death that will befall us at one time or another. If you look around you or even within you a harsh epiphany will happen and you will notice that a lot of people are unhappy for some reason or the other maybe even yourself?
Every decade is known for something or another and this decade is known for bringing out a lot of depression related issues out into the open which were a taboo to discuss in public to avoid being stigmatized. Today depression is a more comfortable issue to discuss and running wild and whilst your go to therapist gets rich or your psychiatrist dopes you up with every chemical he gets a kick back for prescribing there are many other solutions to overcoming depression.
Other than chemical solutions people have turned to religion and whatnot to try to cure this phenomenon classified as a disease (which I believe it is not) but rather a state of mind. Depression when it hits you can manifest its self in many forms or ways unknown to the person it affects. The first responders or the first people to get affected or notice this is in the persona behavior change. People affected by depression can take on many behavior traits that often might get your relatives to think you need a shrink and the shrink going on what everyone else will tell them will juice or dope you up accordingly.
On a completely different plateau people suffering from depression also resort to alcohol and drug abuse to try to get away from the situation and eventually fall victim to addictions and other issues to add to the main problem. So in short depression I believe that depression cannot be categorized as there are many variances of it and how it will evolve in a person and neither can it be cured by taking a pill or speaking to a therapist alone.
What qualifies me to make such statements are a few facts about me that I chose to accept! I was born in Pakistan and I suffered the wrath of society's ability to judge a human being before it accepted it into the social wolf pack. I had problems with the world and myself and I spent the better half of my youth being taken from doctor to soothsayer to be cured. Eventually in 2012 I ended my depression and broke free from all the chains around me as I discovered that only I could liberate myself from these invisible chains.
First, you need to understand that depression is something that affects every human being today. The reason is that time is of the essence and whilst we try to do the most in the minimum amount of time what humors social media today is someone else being ridiculed more than our selves. The world is a brutal child’s playground where one finds more enemies hidden within their friends and then a whole lot of people in their homes who listen with the intent to rebuttal rather than understand. So most people feel extremely lonely and to be honest in this civilization that is a forest of people swaying where the social tide goes nobody really has time to understand other people’s issues yet get really upset when they don’t get the attention they want,
Some of us have auto response mechanisms within our minds to deal with it. Those that don’t allow this state of mind to overtake their true personas and portray its self in way unimaginable to the human mind or conscience. To defeat depression, you need to know that the only person who can do it is “yourself”.
When you are looking to defeat “depression” basically what you are looking for is freedom from the person you are and have a need to evolve into a better human being. To do that you need to change your lifestyle completely and you need to surround yourself with positivity.
Toxic relationships are also a root cause for depression because we rely on societies approval to simply fit in. I know so many people out there who go to work and do fancy jobs yet are the most miserable people inside. Sometimes you need to distance yourself in a healthy way that is not offensive from maybe a parent or a sibling or a spouse to get that emotional freedom you need. As it takes two hands to clap one needs to be honest with themselves and get a firm grip on the reality of why they are depressed. Since you are self-evaluating yourself you also need to discover what makes you happy!
Overcoming depression is not an easy task because one of the main ingredients you need to change in life is who you truly love? You need to be completely selfish when it comes to “love” as the most honest relationship you will ever have in your existence will be with yourself. Loving yourself means ensuring you are comfortable with the person you are or want to be and that is emotionally and internally. Once you have decided that only then should you focus on your exterior.
Your exterior development or re-designing will depict how secure you are as a human being. You might want to change the job you do and rather than going to work to pay the bills and then coming home to hit the bottle you might just want to change what you do by making a structured plan on how to do something you would love to do every day! Curing depression also about how you spend your time so one of the skills you need to develop is self-time management.
A huge part of curing depression or overcoming it is to train your most powerful weapon against it which is your mind. You need to train your mind to ignore and block out anything that affects you as a human being. So basically, think with your brains and not your hearts when it comes to this and define boundaries in all your relationships. This is easy to do at work and everywhere else but almost next to impossible to do with your family. Your family has their own set personalities and whilst you know they will not accept any form of criticism and expect you to change you need to change this balance of emotional control in a way that will leave you happy.
Most depression related problems occur when person is in their adolescence. Family structures, especially from countries like China, India, Pakistan and Sri Lanka that are used to be extremely close knitted have a hierarchy system that they believe is right and extremely narrow minded when it comes to change. Eventually the young, frustrated for not being understood as an individual might act out and then automatically written off permanently as a problem child!
When a parent takes a child to be cured for depression or any psychological problems little do they realize that they too need to bring about a change within them. If a flower does not bloom in a certain environment, then one needs to change the environment and not the flower. So, if you have a child who might be suffering from God knows what your medical practitioner tells you just sit down and think everything out about the environment your child lives in before you decide to label the child.
Only you can cure depression and only you can decide how to take control of your life. To me anyone who is in depression is allowing it to happen. There is no fixed cure to handle depression because there are so many different types of it. Maybe changing your environment might help you and maybe. Depression is not hard to cure if you can discipline your life. Also, self-help books never helped me only common sense did. I found a purpose for myself, I set some big goals and then many small ones to help me attain that big goal (I still have not attained it yet) and then life suddenly became worth living!
Material possessions do not help you overcoming depression. They only distract you away for a brief momentary lapse of reason and shift your focus from the core issues. I spent years trying to buy my emotional freedom only to realize that it left me lonelier than ever and feeling empty inside. When I started working on myself and making sure that everything I did was centered around my emotional and personal happiness my journey to recovery started.
If you choose to liberate yourself from depression, then please understand that it will be extremely difficult and you need to stay strong to yourself as you are to your religion. Once you fall in love with yourself and want to better yourself you need to know that there will be hurdles, obstacles and hiccups from within your own family and friends but you should never compromise your happiness and the commitment you have made to being a happier person by reverting to your old “normal” self the way people liked you to be or wanted you to be.
Depression is easily cured by living in a self-structured positive environment, believing in self-motivation and having ambition as well as having a purpose in life and then surrounding yourself with people who can emotionally appreciate your life with positivity. The hardest thing in overcoming depression is to emotionally disconnect with those who will constantly trigger your negativity. Only you can be the change that you want to be so why not try. If you are suffering from depression, please know that you are in control and only you can make it stop. Unless you have a child suffering from depression then you need to know that you are also in control and you need to be the change you want to see in your child!
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