A Professionals Guide To KamaSutra
To me “Love” is an infatuation which through a contract of
marriage turns into toleration!
All
marriages some at some point in their life fall apart in some way or get boring and people may look happy
on Facebook and perfectly satisfied yet deep down inside simply coexist with
one another for as long as they can tolerate it!
Being married to your job or to another person becomes more of an ordeal and painful duty rather than pleasurable and people often wind up in a therapists office or inside a chemists shop trying to procure all kinds of psychotropic medications to cure what... they really do not know!
Today "Time" is the most precious commodity we have, NOT money and people do not know how to spend that time making "love"! Everyone is out for a quickie! Companies & entrepreneurs do this daily where they demand results from their personnel at a fraction of what they want to pay out! At home everyone wants to quickly get off and move onto better things... apply this to every day household chores and not simply sex!
I believe that every relationship one has in their life no matter what it is or whom it is with is based upon TWO things only - "Honesty" & "Respect" there is no third element at all. If one of these two elements do not exist in any given relationship then one needs to understand that they are NOT in any healthy relationship!
Us humans have forgotten the art of making love! I tell people forget love marriages and falling in love as the minute you're done with the honeymoon and your Henna has worn off and the Bangles have fallen off you realize that you went to bed with a Goddess at night and awoke into a horrific nightmare. This goes not only for men rather this also goes for women as well!
So if you decide to get married to a person before you love them "make sure you like them". if you intend to spend the rest of your life together then it is better to have a friend you like and can spend time with!
The same applies to work relationships - whether you like it or not - your boss is your husband and that too a thankless one. Sadly a lot of people I know in the professional world work to pay their bills and really detest their jobs. Some times it also helps to re evaluate your happiness goals and work towards identifying a career that you really enjoy!
So first of all if you need to survive a professional husband or a wife or a personal love affair and keep your flame alive then here are a few pointers...
Most of all "Love your self" be selfish and yes be honest to yourself and do not compromise your values boundaries or goals. You cannot please everyone and be happy so make sure your values are correct and you respect your self above all!
In order to maintain any form of karmic love and happiness in the professional world or your personal life you MUST ensure that you come first (not to a selfish point of being a hedonistic narcissistic cretin) - you must take out time for your self always and ensure that you take care of your health and mind above all.
The human mind is the most amazing erotic sexual organ that has unimaginable potential to do good as well as lead one to personal, emotional and professional suicide. So you need to practice self love techniques to keep your mind calm. For some meditation might work and for others it can be prayer. If you have the ability to maintain a stable powerful mind only then will you be able to survive any form of relationship.
Let go of your insecurities and leave negative thoughts and avoid those who do not understand you at all - I also believe that in life nothing is perfect and we all make mistakes - we are quick to judge yet extremely resentful of criticism - to me "excuses and apologies' - well nobody needs them as your friends will accept you for who you are and not what you are and your enemies... they really don't care... so why waste your breath.
I mentioned in the beginning that "Time" is the most precious commodity you have NOT money so think of it this way... the day you were born you started a journey towards your grave... you just don't know when you will die and where, so why not make the best of what time you have right now! You cannot change your past as it defines who you are - all your past experiences have carved out the human being that exists today so live for the moment and not for tomorrow by managing your time extremely well.
If you manage a healthy happy professional life automatically your personal life will appreciate and vice versa yet both need time and not money to make any relationship work. Have the ability to switch off and listen rather than speak and ensure you are willing to learn at every step of the way because if you were not the same person you were a year ago then neither is anyone else as they too have a right to evolve like you.
Understanding one's limitations and abilities and using pragmatic educated decision making skills is what one really needs to survive and translate Kamasutra. There are many positions in life that will be thrown at you so if you have the ability to live out your life removing emotions from all your decisions you will not only love yourself but people will like you!
Remember being born is not a crime - dying poor is a choice! How rich you are in mind body and soul when they bury you is totally dependent upon your perception of Kamasutra for Life!
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