OVERCOMING DEPRESSION
& FINDING NIRVANA
Here is some advice on how you can find internal happiness & overcome depression!
I have lived with depression for many years and was treated
by the worst and the best of them in many countries and eventually I got over
it so here’s how I overcame it! In this blog
I would like to tell you what depression is and how to overcome it!
Today’s humans are just bodies that wake up every day and
then eventually fall asleep to wake up another day until the time has come to
answer to a higher calling. Almost all
of us are trapped in a world where we just exist terrified of the inevitable
death that will befall us at one time or another. If you look around you or even within you a
harsh epiphany will happen and you will notice that a lot of people are unhappy
for some reason or the other maybe even yourself?
Every decade is known for something or another and this
decade is known for bringing out a lot of depression related issues out into
the open which were a taboo to discuss in public to avoid being stigmatized. Today depression is a more comfortable issue
to discuss and running wild and whilst your go to therapist gets rich or your
psychiatrist dopes you up with every chemical he gets a kick back for
prescribing there are many other solutions to overcoming depression.
Other than chemical solutions people have turned to religion
and whatnot to try to cure this phenomenon classified as a disease (which I
believe it is not) but rather a state of mind.
Depression when it hits you can manifest its self in many forms or ways unknown
to the person it affects. The first responders
or the first people to get affected or notice this is in the persona behavior change.
People affected by depression can take
on many behavior traits that often might get your relatives to think you need a
shrink and the shrink going on what everyone else will tell them will juice or
dope you up accordingly.
On a completely different plateau people suffering from
depression also resort to alcohol and drug abuse to try to get away from the
situation and eventually fall victim to addictions and other issues to add to
the main problem. So in short depression
I believe that depression cannot be categorized as there are many variances of
it and how it will evolve in a person and neither can it be cured by taking a
pill or speaking to a therapist alone.
What qualifies me to make such statements are a few facts
about me that I chose to accept! I was
born in Pakistan and I suffered the wrath of society's ability to judge a human
being before it accepted it into the social wolf pack. I had problems with the world and myself and
I spent the better half of my youth being taken from doctor to soothsayer to be
cured. Eventually in 2012 I ended my
depression and broke free from all the chains around me as I discovered that
only I could liberate myself from these invisible chains.
First, you need to understand that depression is something
that affects every human being today. The reason is that time is of the essence and
whilst we try to do the most in the minimum amount of time what humors social
media today is someone else being ridiculed more than our selves. The world is a brutal child’s playground where
one finds more enemies hidden within their friends and then a whole lot of
people in their homes who listen with the intent to rebuttal rather than
understand. So most people feel
extremely lonely and to be honest in this civilization that is a forest of people
swaying where the social tide goes nobody really has time to understand other
people’s issues yet get really upset when they don’t get the attention they want,
Some of us have auto response mechanisms within our minds to
deal with it. Those that don’t allow
this state of mind to overtake their true personas and portray its self in way
unimaginable to the human mind or conscience.
To defeat depression, you need to know that the only person who can do
it is “yourself”.
When you are looking to defeat “depression” basically what
you are looking for is freedom from the person you are and have a need to
evolve into a better human being. To do
that you need to change your lifestyle completely and you need to surround yourself
with positivity.
Toxic relationships are also a root cause for depression
because we rely on societies approval to simply fit in. I know so many people out there who go to
work and do fancy jobs yet are the most miserable people inside. Sometimes you need to distance yourself in a
healthy way that is not offensive from maybe a parent or a sibling or a spouse
to get that emotional freedom you need. As
it takes two hands to clap one needs to be honest with themselves and get a
firm grip on the reality of why they are depressed. Since you are self-evaluating yourself you also
need to discover what makes you happy!
Overcoming depression is not an easy task because one of the
main ingredients you need to change in life is who you truly love? You need to be completely selfish when it
comes to “love” as the most honest relationship you will ever have in your
existence will be with yourself. Loving
yourself means ensuring you are comfortable with the person you are or want to
be and that is emotionally and internally.
Once you have decided that only then should you focus on your
exterior.
Your exterior development or re-designing will depict how
secure you are as a human being. You
might want to change the job you do and rather than going to work to pay the
bills and then coming home to hit the bottle you might just want to change what
you do by making a structured plan on how to do something you would love to do
every day! Curing depression also about
how you spend your time so one of the skills you need to develop is self-time
management.
A huge part of curing depression or overcoming it is to
train your most powerful weapon against it which is your mind. You need to train your mind to ignore and
block out anything that affects you as a human being. So basically, think with your brains and not
your hearts when it comes to this and define boundaries in all your
relationships. This is easy to do at
work and everywhere else but almost next to impossible to do with your
family. Your family has their own set
personalities and whilst you know they will not accept any form of criticism
and expect you to change you need to change this balance of emotional control
in a way that will leave you happy.
Most depression related problems occur when person is in
their adolescence. Family structures,
especially from countries like China, India, Pakistan and Sri Lanka that are
used to be extremely close knitted have a hierarchy system that they believe is
right and extremely narrow minded when it comes to change. Eventually the young, frustrated for not
being understood as an individual might act out and then automatically written
off permanently as a problem child!
When a parent takes a child to be cured for depression or
any psychological problems little do they realize that they too need to bring
about a change within them. If a flower
does not bloom in a certain environment, then one needs to change the
environment and not the flower. So, if
you have a child who might be suffering from God knows what your medical practitioner
tells you just sit down and think everything out about the environment your
child lives in before you decide to label the child.
Only you can cure depression and only you can decide how to
take control of your life. To me anyone
who is in depression is allowing it to happen.
There is no fixed cure to handle depression because there are so many
different types of it. Maybe changing
your environment might help you and maybe.
Depression is not hard to cure if you can discipline your life. Also, self-help books never helped me only
common sense did. I found a purpose for
myself, I set some big goals and then many small ones to help me attain that
big goal (I still have not attained it yet) and then life suddenly became worth
living!
Material possessions do not help you overcoming
depression. They only distract you away
for a brief momentary lapse of reason and shift your focus from the core
issues. I spent years trying to buy my
emotional freedom only to realize that it left me lonelier than ever and
feeling empty inside. When I started
working on myself and making sure that everything I did was centered around my
emotional and personal happiness my journey to recovery started.
If you choose to liberate yourself from depression, then
please understand that it will be extremely difficult and you need to stay
strong to yourself as you are to your religion.
Once you fall in love with yourself and want to better yourself you need
to know that there will be hurdles, obstacles and hiccups from within your own
family and friends but you should never compromise your happiness and the
commitment you have made to being a happier person by reverting to your old “normal”
self the way people liked you to be or wanted you to be.
Depression is easily cured by living in a self-structured
positive environment, believing in self-motivation and having ambition as well
as having a purpose in life and then surrounding yourself with people who can
emotionally appreciate your life with positivity. The hardest thing in overcoming depression is
to emotionally disconnect with those who will constantly trigger your
negativity. Only you can be the change
that you want to be so why not try. If you
are suffering from depression, please know that you are in control and only you
can make it stop. Unless you have a child suffering from depression then you
need to know that you are also in control and you need to be the change you
want to see in your child!
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